Navigating Mild Conflict Escalation - Someone is not obeying the house guest policies

Someone is not obeying the house guest policies

Co-living is all about building a community where shared spaces and experiences help everyone thrive. With that in mind, everything you do—whether it’s something you do or a fellow housemate does—has the potential to impact others, including any guests you may have over.


As outlined in the House Rules, guests are welcome, but we ask that you notify others when you have someone visiting. Walking into the house and encountering someone unfamiliar can be unsettling and create a less-than-safe environment. A simple text to the house letting everyone know, for example, "Hey guys, my friend Dave is coming by to hang out this afternoon before we head to the concert," is all it takes. This isn’t about asking for permission; it’s about respecting the shared space and keeping communication open.


The same principle applies to having a significant other over. If your loved one is staying for fewer than three days, just send a message to let everyone know. If they’ll be staying longer than three days, you’ll need to get approval from all housemates. Our spaces aren’t designed for cohabitation, and county regulations prohibit two people living together in one room in a co-living house—something that could result in a fine, which no one wants to deal with.


Remember, when you signed up for co-living, you agreed to share your space with a specific number of roommates. If your significant other stays longer than three days at a time, that counts as cohabitation and can create issues if the rules aren’t followed.


It’s also crucial to note that guests must always be accompanied by the tenant. One of the key reasons people choose to live in a shared community is the comfort of knowing everyone is on the same page. All tenants have been background-checked, agreed to the house rules, and are committed to maintaining a safe and respectful environment. As a guest’s host, you’re responsible for them, and if you’re not present, it could expose you to potential liability, which is something we’d all like to avoid. It’s a simple precaution—ask your guests to leave with you and to only come over when you’re at the house.


Ultimately, we all share the responsibility of maintaining the standards we agreed to when moving in. By respecting these guidelines, we help ensure a living environment that everyone can feel good about—one that’s safe, comfortable, and truly a community. 


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